Strengths – The Antidote to Not Good Enough
Relax: I’m lightening the mood. Last month I dared you to press pause on your pain-killing machine to acknowledge your painful emotions. Permitting yourself to be vulnerable is important, especially if you rarely do so. Just note, I did say pause and not stop. I...
Pausing your Pain-killing Machine
I must admit, I’ve been easing my way into this one. Last month’s self-care edition provides some soft cushioning for this month’s sticky but essential topic. In previous posts, I have discussed that taking responsibility for saving ourselves is key to escaping The...
How to Save Yourself with Self-care
Self-care is often seen as self-indulgent or a luxury. I want to dispel these beliefs. Last month we spoke about the importance of taking responsibility for the things in your life that are in your control or influence. The next step is to attend to the unmet needs in...
Response-Ability
If you haven’t read last month's post about The Drama Triangle, I suggest you read it now. If you have, I know you are eagerly awaiting the answer to how to get out of the Dreaded Drama Triangle. This month, I will provide a short answer. The long answer will be...
Are you in the Dreaded Drama Triangle?
If you are going to read any of my blogs, this is the one to read. The Drama Triangle is by far the single idea or concept that has influenced my self-awareness and professional work the most. I have since made it my mission to stay out of The Drama Triangle as much...
Your Self-discovery Starter Kit
When I flew the nest, at the age of 18, I generously allocated myself one year to find myself. I emerged from that year feeling more lost than found and recognised my self-exploration techniques needed some fine-tuning. Fast-forward a couple of decades after...
What I love about Walk and Talk Therapy
Blue Wren Therapy opened its doors just as the Coronavirus had just reached our shores. This was a rocky takeoff for a fledgling counselling business. In the beginning Zoom appointments were a new concept for many and clients were willing to give them a go. And then...
Uncage your passion from domesticated love
I am not the Valentines Grinch. Yes, in this blog I expose the incompatibility of love and passion discussed by Esther Perel in her book Mating in Captivity. This is not me trying to diminish your hopes for a steamy encounter with your loving long term partner this...